Love is something special. When you find the right one you know.
Marriage is a logical step and a great one. The question is are you
marrying the right one. It is a huge life decision that will impact the
course of your life. It is not one to be pressured into or rushed into,
as that is your life.
Marriage should never be about money or social status. It should be
about love and commitment. Making a vow to the one you truly love and
believe is your soulmate. Love is priceless. It should not be taken
lightly, undervalued or overlooked.
Sometimes people rush into marriage and it creates serious problems
in their lives. They end up marrying the wrong one and seriously regretting
it. Sometimes people think they are in love, when it is actually lust.
They believe they want someone who is not the right person for them,
because they are acting on their hormones. Looks fade (that goes for
men and women). What you are left with afterwards is what will last in
your life, so make sure this is the right person for you.
Compatibility is very important. Sometimes women cling to men who
simply are not right for them and rush them down the altar only for it
to end in disaster, heartbreak and regret. Sometimes men marry women
for all the wrong reasons - lust, pressure from family and friends, an
unplanned pregnancy used to trap them.
Speaking of that, family and friends need to be careful about trying
to tell others who they should marry. You may mean well, but end up
pushing the person into marriage with the wrong person, then later
regret interfering. Don't tell people who they should marry.
Prince Charles and Camilla Parker when they were
younger
I'll cite a famous example. Prince Charles fell madly in love with
Camilla Parker, who felt the same way about him. They were both single,
young and very much in love. The compatibility was there, but some
didn't see it. His family and friends stated she was not suitable for
him, because she did not come from what they deemed the right
background and was a year older than Prince Charles.
Camilla, unable to deal with what Charles was being told, broke off
the relationship, then ran off and married another man. According to
books on the subject, when Prince Charles received word the love of his
life had ran off and married someone else, he was devastated. His
family and friends' advice had ruined their lives, which would become
more and more apparent as time went by.
Prince Charles and Diana never saw eye to eye
Prince Charles later married my favorite royal, Lady Diana, who
became Princess Diana. However, Diana and Charles were totally
incompatible and he based on his own words, was not in love with her.
He was being pressured into marriage by family and friends to produce
an heir. After Charles and Diana married, it became apparent they were
incompatible. They were like night and day. He loved the country, she
loved the city. He loved books, she liked magazines. He loved museums
and art, she loved fashion.
The age gap didn't help either. It caused problems between Charles
and Diana. Where the Palace thought, like so many do, someone younger
was the better choice, they were wrong in this case, as it caused major
problems with Diana and Charles, who simply did not relate to each
other. There was a generation gap and they did not share the same
interests.
A glum looking Princess Diana and Prince Charles
whose marriage was troubled from the outset
Worst of all, Charles was not in love with Diana. The man looked
glum in pre-wedding interviews and when asked if he is in love gave a
roundabout answer that indicated no. That was a warning sign no one
heeded. Charles was still carrying a flame for Camilla, which led to
ill-advised incidents of adultery during the marriage and Diana cheated
with other men as well.
The marriage caused Diana and Charles an enormous amount of misery,
heartbreak and public ridicule, rocked the monarchy, then ended in a
very acrimonious divorce. They simply did not belong together and the
very thing the Palace sought to preserve, the monarchy, took a terrible
blow because of a marriage that was not meant to be.
Prince Charles and Duchess Camilla today
After Diana died, Charles went right back to the love of his life,
his soulmate, Camilla, marrying her. He should have married Camilla
from the start, as his family and friends' advice was completely wrong.
They say hindsight is 20/20, but people know who they love before they
marry. He and Camilla knew in their hearts it was true love, but other
people came between them, building walls and barriers that should not
have been there, which is the case for quite a few couples, who go on
to regret listening to those that led them wrong, albeit
unintentionally.
I've had friends ask me who I think they should marry, regarding
someone they were dating, but I don't believe in giving specific advice
in such matters, because at the end of the day, I don't know their
hearts, who they truly love or who God made for them. It's not my place
or anyone else's, other than the two people in love and God, to make
such a determination. In such situations, I usually just pray for the
person that God will guide them into making the right
decision.
Marrying the wrong person can turn into a nightmare. Sadly, people
end up divorcing trying to extricate themselves from a marriage that
was not based in true love, via a situation that could cost them all
they've worked for, destroying their finances and taking them on a
terrible emotional roller coaster.
There is someone ideal for everyone. People won't always agree on
every single thing in their lives, but for each person there is someone
out there who is ideal for them. Everyone deserves to find and marry
that truly love. Don't sell yourself short. You deserve the best and
the one that is right for you.
Before you get married, pray about it. Ask God to show you via
circumstances if the person you seek to marry is the right one, lest
you make the wrong decision. Ask God for guidance and to show you who
the right person is for you, lest you make a mistake you end up
regretting for the rest of your life. God can bring the right person
into your life. Pray and have faith.