Chad Johnson and Evelyn Lozada
A few days ago, former NFL football player, Chad Ochocinco Johnson
and his ex-wife "Basketball Wives" star, Evelyn Lozada, got
into a Twitter fight. The two divorced against Johnson's wishes, after
he headbutted Lozada when she questioned him about cheating on
her.
This week, Johnson accused Lozada of having cheated during their
marriage with members of Young Money. Lozada signed a deal with Young
Money's book publishing company and Johnson alleges she had sex with
someone in their camp. Lozada became angry at his allegations and
threatened if he continued, she will send her lawyer after him, stating
his conduct violates the restraining order in place from the domestic
violence incident.
Tonight I went for a walk on Miami Beach (sometimes I walk on the
sidewalk, other times the sand over by the ocean). As I was walking
down Collins Avenue, I passed by David's Cafe and there was Johnson
inside having dinner. He had his hands on a woman standing beside his
stool. She was Hispanic, had long jet black hair and wore a tight black
dress and heels that were giving her trouble to walk in. As she was
ready to leave, he hugged her intimately (translation: copped a few
feels) and kissed her full on the mouth like you would a
girlfriend.
Seconds after she left, another woman came up to him grinning and
started intimately hugging him (translation: copping a few more feels).
The second woman was black with curly brown hair. This all happened in
the minute and a half I stopped outside the restaurant in disbelief, as
he was so open with it (dude works fast - it was like a rotation in
there).
My point? For him to accuse Lozada of being promiscuous is odd when
he is so touchy feely with women, sleeps with strippers and random
groupies. Yes, Lozada is known in sports for being a groupie who
damaged relationships, engagements and marriages, but Johnson is wild
as well. They both need to reevaluate where they are going with their
lives, as promiscuity has burned them, much like it's done to many
others.
Lozada was wrong to tell Johnson he could cheat as long as he
informed her of his actions. She did this in a bid to look cool and
down while she was trying to get him to commit to her, only to explode
in anger when she found a receipt for condoms, which ended his marriage
and career. You can't tell a man it's okay to cheat. That's begging for
trouble. If you want God to bless your marriage, don't do that.
Physically and spiritually adultery destroys marriages and the family
unit, bringing God's disfavor on the union.
Evelyn Lozada crying over Johnson on Iyanla Vanzant's talk
show
Johnson and I have a mutual friend in Miami. She said the women in
his hometown, Overtown, are upset with him for marrying Lozada, when
many of them wanted to wed him. She said the women in his hometown
deemed Lozada an opportunist, who would use him for his wealth and
bring problems into his life. Now they are all saying they were right.
They knew him before he was famous and were glad for him when he made
it out of the projects, but as stated above didn't agree with him
marrying Lozada.
At the end of the day, I do believe she cared for him deeply and
that Johnson loved Lozada the most of the women in his life (whom he is
not related to). They made a nice couple, but set themselves up for a
fall via cheating, anger, lack of impulse control and a failure to
communicate. These other people, folks using them for sex, did not
belong in their relationship. It's a shame things ended the way they
did, as their marriage could have worked if they had done the right
thing by each other and not let promiscuous women come between them.
They are going to regret it for a long time.
