Some women cling to men they simply do not belong with. They are
incompatible and have major differences. However, whether it be
believing they love the person, it becoming an unhealthy obsession or
trying to latch on to a man who is wealthy and or famous, some women
get desperate when a man won't commit to them.
This desperation can lead to them doing unethical things, such as
lying about birth control or sabotaging condoms, in order to
trick a man into an unplanned pregnancy. No man wants or appreciates
such behavior from a woman, as it creates trust issues and feelings of
betrayal in being duped and set up. You also run the risk of the
pregnancy not turning out as planned, creating even more heartbreak for
you and the man.
If a man wants to leave you, tricking him into pregnancy is not
going to make him stay. It's a bad idea. He will be more inclined to leave, resentfully
feeling he cannot trust you. If your boyfriend finds someone he deems
more suitable and believes is the one for him, he will want to leave
whether or not you are pregnant. Men do that all the time.
What happens when you trick him into pregnancy, wrongly believing it
will trap him and make him stay, he leaves, marries another and gets
her pregnant. He will not give your child the time and attention
deserved, as his new family will be the priority. This has happened
time and time again. Why put yourself in that situation.
If a couple is not married, there is no use in them staying together
when they discover they are incompatible and not right for each other.
People also should not cheat under those circumstances, as it is dishonest.
It is better to break up than do that.
One needs to be honest with one's self and not get tied down in a
relationship for the sake of having one, when you full well know the
one you are with is not the one for you. In your heart you know when
you find that great love, your soul mate. Settling for anything less is
not going to make you happy. You have your life to live. While you sit
in a relationship of convenience with someone you know is not the one
for you, the one who is the right one for you, will end up passing you
by, going off with someone else.
There are many women who have realized the one they have been dating
is not the right one for them and let go, backed off, ending the relationship.
But some women get carried away, determined they will cling to a man
they know does not love them, refusing to let go, even if it destroys
his life and their own. If you truly care
about someone (that's single) you would want them to find true love, even if it is not
with you - hence letting them go. Why would you want a man who does not
love you, when you could find one who will.
You need to pay attention to your instincts.
That doubt and lack of peace in one's soul about someone is an
indicator that something is wrong. People often overlook what they are
seeing and feeling while dating, regarding things that are underlying,
valid concerns.
It is better to be single and wait for the right one, than linger
with the wrong one out of convenience, even living in sin (living
together and not married) while the right one passes you by, as it will
cause you long term unhappiness for short term sexual gratification
with someone you're simply not supposed to be with. You will jeopardize
your future in doing so.
Living with someone you're not married to is not the best idea. So
much can go wrong (and often does). Not to be judgmental, but there are
so many ways both partners can end up hurt and damaged from living
together while not married. Then you start making serious decisions
that only married people should undertake. One of my friends bought a
house with her boyfriend and the relationship deteriorated not long
after they moved in. They ended up in court over the house in a very
acrimonious legal battle costing them both a lot of money and bad
feelings. They walked away from the experience very hurt.
In another incident I know, a man moved in his money hungry
girlfriend, who was costing him over $500 per month in gifts and items
she kept asking for. She even began costing him business opportunities
with her clingy, temperamental conduct, trying to push people out of
his life and control him at every turn, fearing he would leave. It's
like she knew in her heart he didn't love her and it was all about sex.
When he finally met someone he fell madly in love with, the woman
rejected him because he had a live-in girlfriend (seriously, who in
their right mind wants to date a man with a live in girlfriend). He
quickly tried to put his girlfriend out, but during the time he worked
on getting her out of the property, someone else began dating the woman
he fell in love with and proposed to her, leaving him
heartbroken.
Once you find the
right person for you, you will know, just make sure you haven't put
yourself in a situation that will put you at a disadvantage in getting
them. The best way to gain guidance on who is the right person for you
is through prayer. Ask God to bring the right person into your life.
Ask God to proverbially open the right doors and close the wrong ones
in your life as well, lest you make a mistake in choosing the wrong one
and end up unhappy and full of regrets. Your future is depending on it.
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