Be Careful Of Letting People Control You In Relationships

Do Not Let Another Person Take Over Your Life

Still from the movie "Misery"

In relationships, there is a difference between concern and control. Some people's behavior veers into territory that goes beyond being concerned for the welfare of their significant other, to trying to downright control them. Considering God gave us all free will and the right to make our own decisions, no one should try to take that away, especially someone one is romantically involved with.

Beware of people who try to control where you go, what you say, what you do and who you talk to. Beware of people who are overly jealous. Be glad that your significant other is so great others think so as well. As long as the person isn't trying to break you and your significant other up, what's the harm.

Beware of those who try to isolate you from your family and or friends. That's a psychological move and that person is messing with your head to control you. It's one thing for a concerned girlfriend or boyfriend to question if it's safe for you to hang out with a friend that's a criminal (you know, something like "sweetie, you sure you wanna get into a car with your gang banger friend, I'm just saying..." - see: drive by shooting).

It's quite another thing when someone you date begins to nitpick your family and friends giving you a million reasons why you should spend less time with them, if any at all. Someone who truly cares about you will want you to have good, healthy lasting relationships with your family and friends, encouraging you to improve said familial and friendship ties. 

Keep relationships in perspective. God gave you a mind. Use it. what happens if and most likely when, you break up, because a controlling relationship where you are being completely domineered usually ends in disaster.

What about your family, friends and potential business associates, you've offended for this jealous, neurotic, controlling person. The funny thing is in many cases, family will try to warn you the person is all wrong for you, but you didn't listen. What about others you met during that time who would have been better for you, but the person told you so much garbage about them in trying to isolate and control you out of jealousy, you behaved in a funny manner that drove them away. Be careful of burning the wrong bridges, as some aren't easily rebuilt.

In life it is always best to use sound judgment and temperance. Learn to stand up for yourself and what you believe. Avoid engaging in conduct that harms others, because someone egged you on to do so, though your God given conscience warned you that you were going down the wrong path. Relationships are supposed to bring you happiness, not worry, anxiety and stress.  

Be Careful Of The Company You Keep

There are friends and loves in life who help others, bringing the best out of them. Then, there are those who bring out the worst in people, encouraging them to do wrong. If someone truly cares about you, they would not do that. The people who love you will not steer you wrong or lead you down a destructive path. 

For some, lying and misleading people is a means of exerting control over them, to do their bidding. While others simply do not think of how their negative conduct will impact others and that in itself makes them a danger. Either way, a toxic friend or significant other is bad news, because somewhere along the line it will rub off on you. It's difficult to be around negativity and not absorb it. The Bible says, "Bad company ruins good morals."  

One of my family members, who works in the legal system, recently told me of a man he knows, whom he tried to encourage to get on the straight and narrow path in life. My relative was concerned regarding who the man viewed as a role model. He was so taken with a dangerous public figure (whose innocent, sick mom my relative knew and helped before she died) because said notorious figure was into the fast life, with guns, drugs and loose women. 

The man wanted to be like the public figure in question and acquired an unlicensed gun, because he thought it was a good image. One day last year, he was driving somewhere with a couple in his car and the police pulled them over. The cop, doing his job, discovered the unlicensed gun. Everyone in the car was arrested, as there has been a push to remove unlicensed weapons from the streets of said region of the world.

The couple were distraught, as they did not know their friend had a weapon or that it was unlicensed. Thousands of dollars in legal fees later and damage to their name, they were cleared of any crimes in the case, but it was a harrowing and costly ordeal.

I see it in the entertainment and sports industries, where some like to hang out with lawbreaking bad men, branding it exciting and edgy, believing it makes them cool and hard by association. But what happens when they do unethical things and even lie to you, with the aim of turning you against your family and true friends, in bids at isolating and controlling you (or even using you to try to hurt and exploit others). What happens when they do something you do not know about that lands you in prison by association until the justice system can hopefully sort out the mess. What happens if one day they become jealous of you and turn a gun on you in a fit of rage.

People need to be careful, as having the wrong friends can cost you everything you have worked for in life at a moment's notice. Then that association becomes toxic and a terrible liability you may not be able to get away from in the public eye. You will be asked strange and painful questions you cannot answer, stunned at where a so-called friendship landed you. I do not write that to make people paranoid or overly suspicious, but some of you are hanging out with dangerous criminals, who pose a liability to your lives and careers. 

In short, if you have good friends doing the right thing in life and not trying to bring any negativity to yours, stick with them. Chances are, if they knew you when you had very little, they will be there with you in good times and bad. But beware of scheming new friends, as they could be wolves in sheep's clothing, who go on to cost you everything.    

CEO Of News Corp Rupert Murdoch Is Not Selling News International Newspapers

 

Rupert Murdoch 

Thought it is predicted by some in the mainstream that newspapers will be obsolete in 10-years, News Corp CEO, Rupert Murdoch, has made it public that he will not be selling News International, which publishes his meddlesome, phone hacking papers. 

 

You can see the contempt on her face for him in this picture 

He's not going to give up the opportunity to terrorize and manipulate politicians and famous world figures, because to a massive ego like Murdoch, that's all he has in his strange and disgraceful life. He clearly gets off on trying to exert power over people, who simply do not want him or his invasive madness in their lives.