Idris Elba and secret wife Sonya Hamlin
The secret wife of 43-year-old actor, Idris
Elba, has spoken out about keeping quite about their
marriage. In an interview with the Daily Mail newspaper in
London this past weekend, 44-year-old lawyer, Sonya Hamlin,
secretly dated Elba for seven months, then married him. Elba
hid her from his fans, claiming it would ruin his career if
they knew he was married.
Within weeks of marrying Hamlin, Elba left
his wife, over his heartthrob image concerns, which was pure
garbage from him. There are many highly successful actors in
the entertainment industry, such as Denzel Washington,
Matthew McConaughey, Clive Owen and Michael Caine, who are married with children and enjoy
great support from the public.
Elba's claims it would ruin his career being
married to her and thus hiding her, then filing for divorce,
was just a pathetic excuse to cheat on her, while he starred
on the television show "The Wire." Elba's disgraceful
behavior in this regard hasn't changed, as he impregnated
the latest girlfriend he had been hiding from fans for a
time, then walked out on her as well.
When you are building a brand, being
deceitful with fans is one of the worst things you can do.
Lying to your audience about major events in your life, such
as marriage, will cause you to lose fans.
Idris Elba and his most recent girlfriend, Naiyana
Garth, who gave birth to his child and he recently abandoned
It's okay for high profile entertainers and
athletes to privately date (but not lie and say they are
single when they are not). It's normal not wanting the press
in one's business regarding who one is dating. It makes for
an easier life. While dating, it's also wise to not divulge
too much details about your love life to the press or on
social networking, as it can destroy a relationship. Some
will look for ways to use what you post online to create
trouble and heartbreak in the relationship.
However, as a famous person, lying about
something major, such as being married, is unwise and will
make fans deem you untrustworthy. It's one thing to
privately get married, wanting some privacy for your wedding
day, then announcing it to your fans a day or days after
(also, you don't know if the bride or groom will show up or
if you will go through with it, so one decides to wait until
after the wedding day to announce it to the public LOL).
However, hiding major events in your life for weeks, months
or even years does not look good to audiences.
It's an image breaker. It almost looks
sinister to audiences. And if you are an entertainer or
athlete who needs fans to buy movie or sporting tickets or
you want to make money from endorsements, they will not be
inclined to support you, wondering why you hid something so
important. It will make them wonder what else you are hiding
and brand you untrustworthy, which is not good for your
brand. It's also like a catfish (pretending to be someone
you are not).
Chris Brown and daughter Royalty
There are other image breakers as well.
Singer Chris Brown, discovered he fathered a child, Royalty,
while cheating on longtime girlfriend, Karrueche Tran and
his image has not bounced back from that scandal. Brown kept
quite about the child, for fear of losing Tran, hiding the
baby from her and his fans. The child's mother, Nia Guzman,
decided to go to TMZ to out Brown, as she wanted money to
live lavishly that he refused to provide. Brown gave her
$2,000 per month to help with the baby. However, Guzman
wanted $20,000 per month to live the high life.
When the story broke, Brown's girlfriend
Tran was devastated and rightly dumped him, as his conduct
in cheating on her, then hiding the baby was deceitful and
cruel. Brown still can't understand why Tran won't take him
back, but he broke her heart, gave her a nasty shock and
showed her she cannot trust him. He lost the love of his
life in a decision that haunts him to this day, in one he
has been unsuccessfully trying to fix.
Brown lost fans over the incident as well. I
watched as a number of his fans online turned on him and
stopped supporting him, due to the deceitfulness of what
transpired. Fans expect people to have major milestones in
their lives, such as marriage and children. However, hiding
things then springing them on fans always damages careers.
It is better to be honest from the start. Brown's sales are
showing the damage. There is a noticeable decline.
And all for what, a woman he doesn't love
(and at this point doesn't really like) who trapped him with
a baby because she wants money. Brown was using Guzman for
sex and didn't even acknowledge her publicly, as he does not
love her, nor was or is he in love with her in any way.
Royalty is a beautiful little girl, but to be born under
such circumstances always proves emotionally hurtful for the
child. Men need to be careful regarding their sperm. Their
conduct is this regard can damage their personal life and
career in significant ways. And when you are in the
limelight, you have far more to lose.
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My secret marriage to Idris... who broke my heart to
be a heart-throb: We loved each other, reveals the US lawyer
who became star's second wife... but he was told to dump me
to save his career
Published: 16:00 EST, 16 April 2016 |
Updated: 20:44 EST, 16 April 2016 - Sonya Hamlin, a
beautiful property lawyer and the ‘secret’ second wife to
whom Idris Elba was married for just a few brief weeks
before, said the couple divorced after he reached the
devastating conclusion that she would get in the way of his
career.
Just a few weeks ago, he walked out on
Naiyana Garth, the British mother of his two-year-old son.
And now another casualty in the long-running and chaotic
Idris Elba script has stepped forward with a story of her
own. This is Sonya Hamlin, a beautiful property lawyer and
the ‘secret’ second wife to whom Elba was married for just a
few brief weeks before, she says, he reached the devastating
conclusion that she would get in the way of his career. She
was heartbroken.
Today, in her first-ever interview, the
44-year-old gives The Mail on Sunday an unprecedented
glimpse into the emotional life and, some might say, the
ferocious ambition of Britain’s biggest rising star. ‘People
were telling him he was going to ruin his career,’ she says.
‘He was being told it was an important part of his image to
be a single sex symbol in Hollywood and being married would
damage that.
‘It was very sad. Idris and I were madly in
love, but he was getting a lot of flak for being married.
Everyone was like, “Dude, you’re the hottest sex symbol!”
‘“It wasn’t the right look”, that’s what they were telling
him. I wanted to save the marriage.’The two had been
introduced by a mutual friend in 2006. Not only was Sonya
glamorous, she was an accomplished and ambitious lawyer, and
seemed to represent the better life to which Elba, who was
born in a Hackney tower block, aspired.
For her part, it was ‘pure chemistry’. By
that stage, he was well-known in America through his role on
The Wire, an HBO crime drama set in Baltimore, but success
had been hard-won. Raised in Canning Town, the son of
immigrants from Ghana and Sierra Leone, Elba had worked at
Ford in Dagenham before turning to acting...
